How can I make the assessment less stressful for my child?

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Explain what is going to happen

Children often cope better when they have a basic idea of what to expect.

You might explain that they are going to meet someone whose job is to understand how they learn, think and experience everyday life.

Keep the explanation appropriate for your child's age and the way your family normally talks about health.

There is no test to pass

Some children hear the word assessment and assume there will be right or wrong answers.

It can help to explain that the clinician is trying to understand what life is like for them.

Your child does not need to perform, impress anyone or give a particular answer.

Let your child be themselves

Clinicians are not looking for a perfectly behaved child.

They are trying to understand your child's experiences, strengths and difficulties.

Encourage your child to answer honestly rather than trying to work out what adults want them to say.

Make the day easier where you can

If possible, consider:

• allowing extra travel time so you are not rushing
• bringing water or a snack if appropriate
• bringing something familiar or comforting
• letting the clinician know about communication or sensory needs
• planning a quieter activity after the appointment

Assessment appointments can be tiring for children and parents, even when they go well.

Tell the clinician if your child is worried

You do not need to manage your child's anxiety alone.

If your child is particularly nervous, let the clinician know. They can explain the process, adjust how they introduce the appointment and help your child understand what is expected.

The goal is not to make your child look a certain way. It is to help the clinician understand them as accurately as possible.